Dear husband, Here we are, twenty-four times we have celebrated Valentine’s Day. How far we have come and how deeply we have learned to love. When I say love, I mean the kind of love that endures storms and deserts and valleys. We have learned to love by giving instead of taking. This didn’t come…
I don’t want to deal with this. Bleh. It’s not going away, so I am just going to say this and move on. Fifty Shades of Grey is everywhere. I will say, I have not read this book. I scanned a few sample chapters online to get a good idea of the storyline. I was…
I wrote a post last year called, To The Wife Who’s Ready to Run. It has been shared nearly fifty-thousand times, but it has also created a little bit of backlash. Some people think it was an unrealistic load of crap. Some have written me, asking me what I think about women being abused. Of course…
Fighting is inevitable. It is just going to happen. People fight. Neighbors fight. Nations fight. But fighting in marriage can be miserable. It causes hurt, and instills fear. Fear that things are going to fall apart. Fear of loss. Marriages are failing left and right, but I don’t think fighting is the only reason why.…
I read a lot of marriage books. I read a lot of marriage blogs. But I seriously have missed the boat on something. How to be friends with my husband. Parenting came very easily to me. I never felt put out when my kids were puking on me at 3:00 a.m. I didn’t feel trapped…
Happy New Year! For some reason, yelling this makes me feel a bit delusional. I feel like I am forcing a square peg. For the most part, people seem quite unhappy and dissatisfied, and probably feel bummed out, but we yell it anyway. Even though you can see the frantic look in everyone’s eyes, we…
While driving the other day I noticed a bumper sticker at a red light that said, “Don’t believe everything you think.” So true. I could save myself a lot of trouble by adhering to those five words. How often do we create reality out of our thoughts? If we behave as though these thoughts are…
Dearest Overwhelmed Wife, I thought about you this morning. I opened my eyes and saw my to-do list staring at me from the foot of the bed. I pulled the covers back over my head and tried to ignore it. But I could hear it’s hot little breath on me, and could feel it tapping…
Dear Husband, I had a hard time choosing an anniversary card for you. One that was realistic and reflects all we have been though. Most of those cards sounded so trite and shallow. I didn’t want to settle for some sing-songy card that took for granted the blood sweat and tears we have endured in…
I would like to fill you in on a little secret. I am in no way qualified to write on this blog. Sometimes, I feel like I am in no way qualified to be married! I am sure if you are at all close to me, you have wondered why I have a marriage blog…