I know exactly where most of my husband’s wounds are—his most sensitive insecurities. I don’t know where all of them are rooted, and some of them don’t even make sense, but I know about them nonetheless. I remember when I really figured this out—the hard way, of course. Responses were flying back and forth, not…
Experiencing tough times together can be beneficial. Family therapist, Dr. C. Allen, says that going through times of crisis or tragedy actually increases the bond between spouses. He explains that this is why it’s so important to work through the rough patches in our marriages. Life can be so challenging, but when you are on…
Change is from the outside in Trying to come up with New Year’s resolutions and ways to improve myself is exhausting. And the only thing more tiring than changing myself, is trying to change my husband. It used to be so tempting. I tried for years, but never succeeded. I finally had to accept that…
I’ve had six friends get engaged this month. And along with holiday engagements come lots of blog articles about why we should or shouldn’t get married at certain ages, if at all. When Kyle and I got engaged, I knew we’d receive more guff than excitement. I expected negative remarks. And they did come. So…
Life can be overwhelming. We have recently added four extra kids to our household. My sweet nieces are here while their parents get some things sorted out and settled. This has been a huge change for everyone involved, and has made it challenging to get much done other than cooking and cleaning. We are happy…
You know the feeling. Your husband is doing something that’s driving you crazy. Maybe it’s something as little as getting ready and throwing his clothes on the floor. Or he’s leaving without kissing you goodbye. Or he isn’t helping you with dinner or housework. You let him do it. You decide not to say anything,…
I spent many years trying to be a good Christian. I wholeheartedly thought that by acting or dressing a certain way, I would gain God’s favor. As a teenager I was often frustrated by my stupid mistakes, and felt that God would surely remove Himself from me. I lived each day with a measure of…
Our marriage does not match the one I imagined as a girl. It doesn’t even come close to comparing to the marriages I see on Facebook, or sitting in church a few rows in front of us. I know comparing gets us nowhere, but nothing about my husband is what I pictured him to be.…
Are you in a dry spot? Do you feel like you will never reach the oasis? Maybe you are like me and get sick and tired of the uphill battle and would like a little rest. Here is the good news: after you walk through the desert, you will be changed for the better. I…
Our dear friend, Lorraine, is sharing her story this week. Please follow along! (If you’re just joining us, please read part 1 and part 2 of Lorraine’s story first.) I totally loved being a “1 Peter 3 wife,” and do you know what? I had fallen in love with my Heavenly Husband and things slowly…