Being “Good” Doesn’t Cut It

I spent many years trying to be a good Christian. I wholeheartedly thought that by acting or dressing a certain way, I would gain God’s favor. As a teenager I was often  frustrated by my stupid mistakes, and felt that God would surely remove Himself from me. I lived each day with a measure of…

Why We Need Heat and Friction

Are you in a dry spot? Do you feel like you will never reach the oasis? Maybe you are like me and get sick and tired of the uphill battle and would like a little rest. Here is the good news: after you walk through the desert, you will be changed for the better. I…

3 Ways to Confront Pornography

Porn is the monster that looms over us, and we pretend it’s not there. It  seems to out of control and too impossible to contain, much less eradicate because it has become mainstream. It is one click away. It erodes childhoods, destroys marriages, and warps perspectives. It robs us of intimacy, trust, and peace. It…

Seriously, Just Listen to Your Spouse

If there are any husbands out there reading this, can I just tell you that sometimes your wife just wants to feel validated in her feelings? You don’t have to fix it. You don’t have to agree. You simply have to empathize. I realize that empathy might come easier for women, but that fact just…