How can something so wonderful feel so much like an item on a to-do list? The marital sexual relationship is a beautiful part of our lives. It is also one of the most confusing and frustrating aspects as well. It can easily turn into a tug-of-war if you view it as something owed to you—or…
Planning dates can be stressful, right? When you finally get the chance to get out with your husband, you want it to be fun. And sometimes the stress of planning gets in the way of the fun. Last week Scott and I spent the night in Seattle. I had a speaking engagement so we took…
I know exactly where most of my husband’s wounds are—his most sensitive insecurities. I don’t know where all of them are rooted, and some of them don’t even make sense, but I know about them nonetheless. I remember when I really figured this out—the hard way, of course. Responses were flying back and forth, not…
I spend way too much time thinking about all of the things I dislike about myself. It takes up so much mental energy and leaves me feeling frustrated and depressed. It’s pretty selfish if you think about it. Who am I to be so critical? I am made in God’s image so isn’t that enough…
Experiencing tough times together can be beneficial. Family therapist, Dr. C. Allen, says that going through times of crisis or tragedy actually increases the bond between spouses. He explains that this is why it’s so important to work through the rough patches in our marriages. Life can be so challenging, but when you are on…
Change is from the outside in Trying to come up with New Year’s resolutions and ways to improve myself is exhausting. And the only thing more tiring than changing myself, is trying to change my husband. It used to be so tempting. I tried for years, but never succeeded. I finally had to accept that…
When I think of some of the most influential Christian authors, Beth Moore is definitely at the top of the list. In fact, the first Bible study I ever did was by Beth Moore. Her devotionals and Bible studies have made a huge impact on my own walk with God, and they’re great for women…
I’ve had six friends get engaged this month. And along with holiday engagements come lots of blog articles about why we should or shouldn’t get married at certain ages, if at all. When Kyle and I got engaged, I knew we’d receive more guff than excitement. I expected negative remarks. And they did come. So…
Life can be overwhelming. We have recently added four extra kids to our household. My sweet nieces are here while their parents get some things sorted out and settled. This has been a huge change for everyone involved, and has made it challenging to get much done other than cooking and cleaning. We are happy…
You know the feeling. Your husband is doing something that’s driving you crazy. Maybe it’s something as little as getting ready and throwing his clothes on the floor. Or he’s leaving without kissing you goodbye. Or he isn’t helping you with dinner or housework. You let him do it. You decide not to say anything,…